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Forgiveness is one of those words that sounds great, but can hide a mess of complexity underneath. Sometimes, clients often talk about wanting to forgive or be forgiven. Whether it be a parent to child, child to parent, partner to partner, or protective part to Self, forgiveness is sometimes the final step in healing. Sometimes, it is. But in Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy, what looks like forgiveness can sometimes be a protective maneuver, or in IFS language, a ma

Working with shame requires working with the somatic experience of shame. In IFS protective parts generate body constriction, tension and tightness to keep younger parts holding shame hidden and small. This post explores this polarisation in some detail through the IFS Therapy Lens.

A hard truth most people don't get is that people learn to be abused at home. They learn in their family-of-origin through caregiver interactions who has power, who must submit, who is allowed needs, and whose needs are forbidden. Here, we look at victim/perpetrator dynamics through the healing lens of Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapy.